Now I don’t know Paula Deen personally. But I like her and I love her humanity, and I accept her humanity as I do my own. The following is presented from a guest blog as referenced above. It pretty well sums it up for me.
“Okay, let's get it out in the open.
Paula Deen said something derogatory twenty years ago. Then she admitted that she did. Then she apologized.
Then she got fired.
So okay. For those of you who have never called anyone something derogatory and/or used racial stereotypes, read no further.
Gee, looks like everyone's still here! See my point?
Many people were brought up in families that were bigoted because that was the way it was back then. They probably didn't understand it, or even like it, but that's how they were raised. But some chose not to learn from their prejudices, and instead wished and caused harm on minorities, exacting cruelty because their minds weren't open to acceptance.
Paula Deen has never been involved in any anti-racial activities, nor blatantly and frequently referred to someone in a derogatory manner - her only "crime" was that she once called someone a horrible word because they held her at gunpoint.
Trust me, if you are ever held at gunpoint, you are bound to utter many words you don't utter normally afterward.
So it's a terrible word, and should never be used ever. Except as it has been frequently, sometimes as a show of friendship. And no one has ever used it. Never wanted to. Except for the multitude of people who post it on the internet and use it in memes.
And they never apologized. And they still have their jobs.
Paula Deen's condemning is not about bigotry - it's about refusal. Refusal to let something go.
Why don't we all?”